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Another Memorial Day, Another War

Memorial Day was established as a time to honor and mourn those who lost their lives while serving in our armed forces.   It’s tempting to ignore the solemn significance of this national holiday in the busy-ness of approaching summer, in the opportunity for a long weekend of travel and festivity, in the opposing tugs of obligation and urge for escape.  We do a disservice to our war dead, as well as to those currently serving in our military, when we let the day go by without confronting and pondering the very real human cost of war.  There are many, of course, whose grief for the military loss of a family member or friend is unabating.  I hope they find at least a small measure of comfort when they see others acknowledging their dear one’s ultimate sacrifice. 

In years past, I’ve written about the moving prospect of the miniature flags that decorate military graves in lovely Fairfield Cemetery in Spencerport, New York.  This charming Eerie Canal Village near Rochester is the home of my husband’s sister and her family.  My dog Kiko and I discovered the flag-adorned cemetery during an early  morning walk there seven years ago when we were visiting over the Memorial Day weekend.   

Every year since, if I’m not in Spencerport for the holiday, I ask my sister-in-law to send photos of the cemetery.

Her husband serves as a volunteer fire fighter.  She also sent this photo of the local fire department.  Flags are lowered to  half-mast to honor those who gave their lives fighting for our country, our rights and our freedom.  

And she sends photos of the Hometown Heroes banners that adorn the lamp posts along the town’s main thoroughfare, Union Street.  They bear images of men and women from the area who have served, or who currently serve, in our military.  While in the quiet haven of the cemetery, flag-decorated gravestones attest to lives lost in war, the banners in the heart of town remind us of the continuing potential for further sacrifice.

On this Memorial Day, our family is among the many who offer heartfelt thanks that a relative did his or her military duty with honor and returned home physically whole.  We think of our twenty-three-year old nephew, who served in the Marines.  Back in civilian life, he was able to attend our daughter’s wedding in April.  The last time I’d seen him, he was a restless little boy, happy to be rescued from an all-day Irish Dance event, in which his two sisters were participating.  He’s now a wise young man, thoughtful, soft-spoken and self-effacing.  He was deployed for many months in the Middle East, in dangerous locales that were kept secret.  At one point, his parents received word that there had been a death in his company, but the young soldier’s identity wasn’t revealed for a while.  The frightening reality of war was painfully evident for our family during those anxious days.  Our nephew, of course, lived with the stark truth of imminent danger throughout his deployment.  Hours of boredom might suddenly be followed by the sight of missiles soaring overhead like fireworks.  He saw all too clearly the physical and emotional damage of war.  He’s also seen the ineffectiveness of military might in changing hearts and minds. The experience of war has left him, like many of our returning servicemen and women, with a fresh appreciation for peace and peace-makers.

Every day now we hear conflicting reports about the progress, (or  its absence), of yet another all too ill-considered war.  We hear conflicting reasons for our country’s entry into this befuddling military campaign.  We’re told that earlier missile strikes “obliterated” Iran’s ability to make a nuclear weapon.  Then we’re told that Iran was, despite that absolute obliteration, somehow on the very brink of achieving such a weapon.  We’re told that the Strait of Hormuz is open.  Or maybe not quite yet.  But it certainly will be, very soon.  We’re extremely close in negotiating the deal to end all deals.  We’re told that the war is going “unbelievably well.”    

But wait.  We’re even told that this is not a war at all.  It’s nothing more than a mere skirmish.  To grieving families, is this a comfort?  No.  It belittles the circumstances under which their loved ones gave their lives.  To those mourning the thirteen recently deceased service members, it’s yet another slap in the face to hear that their sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, mothers and fathers perished in a little skirmish.  

How many more lives will be required during this conflict, this non-war, and to what end?   As next Memorial Day rolls around, how many more families will be grieving fresh losses?  Will we ever learn the value of working for peace, from those, like my nephew, who have lived the reality of war?  

 

 

Mother’s Day 2026: With a Newly Married Daughter, a new Phase of Parenting

May 1999, with my daughter, at five months, on the screened porch of my parents’ house in Atlanta.

It’s been just over two weeks now since our daughter’s wedding.  She and her fiancé were married in a very moving ceremony to which they’d given much thought.  Festive food, drink, and a rollicking dance party followed.  Several dear friends and family members present had attended my husband’s and my wedding thirty-one years ago.  All five of her young cousins on my husband’s side were with her at once for the first time ever.  The setting was a lovely working farm among the rolling hills of Loudoun County, Virginia.  We could well have been in the horse country of my native Kentucky.  

As the wedding day approached, I thought back on approximately twenty-eight years of motherhood, beginning with those first days when I discovered that I was expecting.  I kept coming back to the phrase I find myself thinking at every family milestone event:  our daughter is the daughter I’ve always wanted.  

Our first ultrasound image of our baby girl was telling:  she was upside down and doing vigorous scissor kicks.  This child would likely be a spirited, energetic presence.  

In those early days, I had a vague vision of what I hoped she’d be like, and the ways I might see my beloved parents, maybe even grandparents, in her.  I hoped we’d come to share a cherished friendship, much like the one I still enjoy with my mother.  

While I had wished she’d share a love for some of my favorite things, and she has, after her birth, I soon understood that it would be wondrous to witness the many ways she’d surprise us.  

It’s been a grand adventure to watch her move through various life phases:  especially bold around a year, suddenly shy at two.  Funny from the very beginning, able to laugh at herself.  As a toddler determined to try new things with minimal assistance.  How often she declared, “Self do it!”  Quickly, it was evident that she was gifted with courage, but also with kindness and compassion.  

As she grew, my husband and I saw how her character reflected traits from both of us, yet combined in novel ways.  She became the teenager who jumped into musical theatre while learning  BC Calculus, and then the University of Virginia student who chose a career in aerospace engineering and minored in astronomy.  

We’ve been blessed with almost three decades of being parents to our daughter.  Every once in a while, when I hear her call out “Mama,” past and present versions of her collide.  I get a sort of amazingly surreal time-warp sensation.  Sometimes when my husband and I reminisce about old times, we see her there with us.  Then it hits us that she wasn’t even born yet.  Seems like she’s always been a part of us.  And she always will be.

I marvel that our daughter does, indeed, carry in her traces of those who’ve gone on before.  My father was absolutely, resoundingly, overjoyed to become a grandfather.  Papa loved everything about our daughter.  In the curve of her nose, and in her gracious, humble confidence, I see him.  And she’s her Nana’s girl, too.  My mother, the practical realist, loves her granddaughter every bit as much as my father did.  Her role, though, has always been to  be the more subdued foil to Daddy’s sunny optimism.  Our daughter shares Nana’s willingness to face, and even to find humor, in life’s bitter and difficult aspects.

My husband and I, August 1998, at Mount Vernon, shortly after we moved to Virginia. I was five months pregnant with our daughter. (My facial expression is one I see on my mother in countless photos.)
January 5, 1999. With my mother and daughter, six days old, at our first townhouse in Virginia.
My mother and newborn daughter, January 7, 1999.
Happiness all around: my parents and daughter at 9 months, ready for Gymboree, September 1999.

With our daughter newly married, we’ve moved into another distinct parenting stage.  We’re absolutely delighted that she’s chosen a young man whom we happily welcome as a son.  They began dating in 2019, when they were both in college, but have been friends since 2014, when they met in high school drama. In their first shared theatre experience, she was among the citizens of Verona, and he played Romeo.  Our families, as drama volunteers and enthusiastic patrons, quickly became well acquainted. 

The newly married couple, April 25, 2026. (Thanks to my sister-in-law Julie for this photo.)

Our daughter and her new husband complement each other like colors on the color wheel.  At their wedding, I offered this toast:  May your love and respect increase with the years.  May you nourish each other, like the forest of plants you lovingly tend in your home.  May you strengthen and encourage one another, like two trees that flourish and thrive because they’re entwined together.  

A portion of the wedding banner I painted for the couple.

And may we, my husband and I, continue to grow as good parents to both our children.  And if we get the chance one day to be grandparents, may we embrace that role with as much joy and dedication as our parents did before us.  

Christ is Risen!

 

Christ is risen! Shout Hosanna! Celebrate this day of days.

Christ is risen! Hush in wonder; all creation is amazed.

In the desert all surrounding, see, a spreading tree has grown.

Healing leaves of grace abounding bring a taste of love unknown.

 

Christ is risen! Raise your spirits from the caverns of despair.

Walk with gladness in the morning.  See what love can do and dare.

Drink the wine of resurrection, not a servant, but a friend;

Jesus is our strong companion.  Joy and peace shall never end.

 

Christ is risen! Earth and heaven never more shall be the same.  

Break the bread of new creation where the world is still in pain.

Tell its grim, demonic chorus: “Christ is risen! Get you gone!”

God the First and Last is with us.  Sing Hosanna every one!

Christ is Risen

Words: Brian Wren, 1984

Music: Polish carol; arr. by Edith M.G. Reed, 1926

 

May the loving spirit of the risen Christ urge us toward acts of mercy, kindness and grace, give us the courage to speak truth to power, and stand against evil and injustice.  

Happy Easter!

Good Friday 2026

“It is finished.”  With that he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.

–(John 19: 30)

Jesus’s final words on the cross were not a cry of defeat, but a declaration of victory.  His earthly mission was completed.  He had broken down the barrier between us and God.  

With his help, our work as brothers and sisters in Christ, as God’s children, continues.

 

For  more on Good Friday, see last year’s post here.  

 

Last Supper, Last Words

During his final meal with his disciples, Jesus knew his earthly life was nearing its end.  He used those last hours with his followers to stress the heart of the gospel:  love one another as he has loved them.  As he washed their feet, he urged them toward an active, audacious mission of caring for others, just as he cares for them.  Maundy Thursday marks the commemoration of this commandment, or mandate, to love one another. He knew he would soon be betrayed and executed, but he chose love.  

Let’s try to do the same.  Though the world may normalize violence, cruelty and retribution, let’s be radical.  Let’s do the hard work of choosing love.  

Last year’s post on Maundy Thursday remains as relevant as ever. See here.  

Reflections on Haygood Memorial United Methodist Church, as its Centennial Approaches

The Atlanta church I grew up in celebrates one hundred years of ministry this month.  Haygood Memorial United Methodist Church is located in the heart of the historic Morningside neighborhood, immediately adjacent to the elementary school.  When my parents and I moved to the area in 1968, we considered it a stroke of great fortune to find a home a little more than a block away from the church and school. We began attending Haygood that summer, when I was about to start second grade.  Haygood served as my home church for the next several decades; it nourished me in many ways as I grew from child to adult. When my mother relocated to Virginia in 2017, following my father’s passing the year before, we’d seen twelve pastors come and go.  Our Haygood connection had held strong for forty-nine years.  Because the congregation is still filled with dear friends, the link remains vital today. 

The impact of Haygood in our lives has recently become especially clear to me.  Looking back, I see what a blessing it has been to be part of a dynamic, caring, multi-generational congregation.  As the ideal faith community should, Haygood offered us ongoing opportunities to interact regularly with a wide variety of people of all ages, from infants to the very elderly. From the babies I first encountered when I helped with the nursery on Wednesday nights, to the spunky octo- and nonagenarian widows my father, as one of several Haygood van drivers, drove to and from Sunday services.  There were the older adults who taught me in Sunday School.  My parents, likewise, taught elementary Sunday School classes for years.  For me, the church was filled with benevolent parental figures I could trust, people who looked upon me with genuine concern. And then there were our peers—the children who came of age with me, and the young parents who became grandparents alongside my parents.  Such invaluable interactions accrue, with time, in a close-knit, friendly neighborhood; over the decades, strangers become family.  A compassionate, welcoming church accelerates that process.  At Haygood we found the key to an instant, but well-rooted and long-lived family.

Above, my parents with their first-grade Sunday School class, on the steps of Haygood in the summer of 1969. It shows my father with his mustache, which was, thankfully, not around for long.

The church was named after Georgia-born siblings Atticus and Laura Haygood.  Atticus (1839–1896) began his career as a Methodist circuit rider.  He later became president of Emory University and a bishop in the Methodist Episcopal Church, South.  He was a strong advocate for education and rights of the formerly enslaved.  In books and sermons, he pushed for freed Blacks’ integration into society.  Laura (1845-1900)  was a champion of women’s education, a teacher who founded girls’ schools in Georgia and China.  After her Atlanta school merged with Girls’ High (the city’s first public school for girls) in 1877, she became its principal.  She was a leader in mission work at Trinity Methodist Church, where she established practical programs for aiding the poor.  At her death, she was serving as a missionary in China.   

I think Atticus and Laura would be pleased to see that their namesake church is one that cares for its members not as an end in itself, as a country club does, but to better equip them to serve God by serving others. They’d approve of Haygood’s emphasis on Bible study not to store up an armory of “gotcha verses” for scoring big wins in theological disputes, but to promote greater insight and to fuel compassion.  They’d be gratified to see a church that tackles the practical, often messy, civic-minded work of loving our neighbors.  They’d approve of a church that generally tries to leave the judgment to God in order to be His hands and feet in the wider world.  This is the Haygood I remember.  And it’s the Haygood that flourishes to this day, serving a vibrant intown Atlanta community.  

Our family in a Haygood directory photo, 1975.

My family and I were there for Haygood’s  fiftieth and seventy-sixth birthday festivities.  We won’t make it in person to the centennial, but Mama and I will certainly be there in spirit.  Haygood will always be our family’s beloved home church.  

My father and my daughter at Haygood’s front doors, July 2008.
My mother with her good friend Beverly after Daddy’s memorial service in August 2016.

Snow, Again

Northern Virginia escaped the brunt of the “bomb cyclone” that brought blizzard conditions and historic snow totals to New York and New England beginning on Sunday evening.  But we did get more snow.  And I’d only just begun to adjust to stepping out our front door onto a squelchy lawn rather than a skating rink.  

Unlike the steely “snowcrete” mixture that blanketed us in late January, this was a beautiful, fluffy-looking snow.  It clung poetically (although heavily and adversely in spots) to trees and foliage.  It’s actually possible to walk through this snow.  And, much to the delight of the neighborhood kids, it has been perfect snowman-making snow.  

Best of all, because the arctic blast of single-digit temperatures has subsided, it may not endure as long as the last one. 

But we may not go snow-less into March.  More of the white stuff could hit us next week.  

Wish you were here, Spring!

Out of the Ashes, the Promise of Hope

On this Ash Wednesday, I look out on a muted, gray-scale world.  Some patches of dull, brownish green are emerging on Northern Virginia lawns as late January’s formidable coating of snow-ice at last begins to melt.  Snow boulders still line roads and cover big expanses of parking lots.  The once pristine blanket of white is mottled with dirt and debris.  The mid-day sky is whiter than the snowy ground.

Oh, for warm rains to usher in the hint of spring.  To thaw the last of the dirty ice, to wash our surroundings clean, to refresh hardened hearts.  

Oh, for a healing power to revitalize the messy ashes of our fragile, mortal lives.  To offer the promise of new life, peace, and hope.

In a way, that’s what Ash Wednesday is all about.  

See my post from 2023: Beyond the Ashes.  

Frozen: On Ice and ICE

Eleven days ago, the first of this year’s much-anticipated winter storms reached Northern Virginia.  We were already in a deep freeze, with temperatures rarely rising to double digits for days in a row.  Snow began falling, as expected, in the pre-dawn hours that Sunday morning.  It turned to sleet around mid-day and continued until late evening.  It shouldn’t have been such a big deal; we measured about six inches of accumulation.  But due to the biting cold, the effects of the storm have only intensified with time.  

The sensation of walking through the white stuff that first day was decidedly odd.   It was a snow without unity:  its discrete frozen pellets seemed to be doing their best to remain separate from one another.   I was reminded of the dry and quickly shifting sands that border the dunes by the Atlantic at the Cape Cod National Seashore in Provincetown. My daughter enjoys the challenge of running that hilly path toward the ocean.  I do not.  

The following day, the top layer of snow had hardened into an icy crust.  Walking across the yard was especially awkward.  A first step might remain atop the layer, while the next would plunge suddenly into the depths.  

With consistently glacial temperatures for the past week, the icy top layer has hardened and thickened.  The current challenge is to remain upright while crossing the yard, especially on sloping areas.  On the bright side, neighborhood kids have enjoyed sliding speedily across the frozen expanses, no sled required.  

Architectural-looking snow blocks, still with us, eleven days after the snowfall.

When my husband cleared the steps that lead from our back patio to our basement door, the snow broke into boulders and sharp edged, ledge-like pieces.  Similar piles of snow rocks line the sides of local roads.  It’s a good time not to be a dog-walker.  

Our front yard looks beautiful, especially when the hard surface gleams in the sunlight with a polished, satiny sheen.  In appearance and consistency, it resembles the royal icing with which I coated the roofs of gingerbread houses I’ve made in the past.  

I find a year-round source of joy in observing our local wildlife.  This has been especially true during previous snowy seasons, when my feathered and furry friends look so charming against a snowy backdrop.  The sight of twelve brightly colored cardinals in a snow-frosted holly tree can hardly fail to lend the day some extra cheer.  

But this year’s extended period of extreme cold has brought worries about the outdoor critters.  Tiny bird bodies adapt to cold weather in remarkable ways: they fluff their feathers to create greater insulation, and their wiry, gnarled feet appear delicate, but they’re largely frost-resistant.  Even the smallest birds are surprisingly resilient.  But they have their limits, and this arctic chill was testing them.  The ice shield keeps insect-eating birds from their usual food sources.  That’s why we’re seeing bluebirds at our feeders for the first time ever.  I’ve tried to do what I can to help, including putting out more seed and suet, and getting a de-icer for the bird bath.   

Larger animals, as well, have been impacted.  We’ve spotted exceptionally few deer during this cold spell.  Nor have I observed many animal footprints of any kind in the snow.  No doubt the icy surfaces have proven treacherous for our four-legged neighbors.  Foxes have been largely absent.  My favorite regular, Freddie, whom I successfully treated for mange two years ago, has had an injured front paw.  He hasn’t visited since before the snow.  I expect I’ve seen his patient, wise face, sharply pointed ears, clear amber eyes, and fabulously fluffy (mange-free) tail, for the last time.   

Nature’s healing refuge is particularly potent when the  buzz of humanity takes on a menacing, anxiety-making tenor.  When the ravenous egos of the power-driven provoke victimization of the easiest prey: the most vulnerable and those labeled as other.  When truth and good will seem to be no match for the counterfeit currency of lies and dirty money.  

These days, though, I see in the frozen-over natural world a reflection of the barbarism of our human-made realm.   I understand that nature is not all greeting card sweetness.  I see the pair of enormous red-shouldered hawks monitoring my songbird sanctuary from afar.  I’ve witnessed their successful attacks.  I’ve seen a young fox prancing with jubilation, a squirrel in its jaws.  Predators, I know, must win some of the time. And I regularly see the painful effects of the manufactured world: deer, raccoons, squirrels, and even box turtles taken down by fast-moving vehicles.  The birds that meet with window glass.  All too memorably, I’ve witnessed the ferocity of a spike-topped iron fence.  The animals who live among us in our cities and suburbs were here first, and they’ve adapted to the perils we’ve brought.  In a sense, they signed up for these risks, and the benefits outweigh the negatives.

The animals in my neighborhood, though, didn’t sign up for weeks of intense cold and a blanket of brutal ice.  They aren’t arctic natives; they’re residents of the mid-Atlantic.  But now it’s as though the very atmosphere, the air they breathe, has turned vicious.  

In this respect, the frozen world of nature now mirrors American society.  ICE roams our city streets and intrudes with a vengeance into vehicles, homes, schools, work places and community centers.  Perhaps it’s only too fitting that a steely strait-jacket of ice currently threatens local wildlife.  It makes me want to hide away and try to ignore it all, both the chaotic world we humans have built, and the beautiful but sometimes cruel realm of nature.     

But I can’t hide.  And I urge you not to, too.  

What can we do? 

First, we must stay informed; arm ourself with facts, and be a witness to the truth.  Second, but even more important, we mustn’t give in to the urge to isolate.  Like birds that survive the coldest winter nights by huddling together, never forget the power of community.  When I most want to give up on humanity, I soon discover that I’m surrounded by great numbers of  brothers and sisters actively working for good.  Together, we can stand for and with those most in need.  We can’t do it alone.  And I believe that we can only do it with God’s help.  We mustn’t take the bait thrown out by those whose goal is to incite violence and civil unrest.  Even when our worst impulse tells us that those with whom we disagree deserve nothing but contempt, we must try to treat them with dignity.  

We’re at a pivotal point in the history of our country.  The most defenseless among us are being maliciously targeted.  But as we’ve seen with the killings of Renée Good and Alex Pretti, it’s dangerous for everyone out there.  Time-honored marks of privilege, including pale skin, U.S. citizenship, education, a command of English and a home-grown accent no longer offer any guarantee of protection.  We face an administration that decrees and demonstrates, in words and actions, that disagreement with its ideology results in a total loss of Constitutional rights.  It’s a position that goes against everything America represents.  We’re past the time for keeping our heads down quietly on the sidelines and hoping for the best.  It’s time to engage, to show up, to make use of our unique gifts as we take up figurative arms in this just fight.  It’s time to follow the example of the brave and persistent John Lewis, who still urges us to make “good trouble.”

Snow mounds in the parking lot of our local shopping plaza.

When a foreigner resides among you in your land, do not mistreat them.The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt.  (Leviticus 19:33-34)

For I was a stranger, and you welcomed me. (Matthew 25: 35)

Angels Unaware

It was my privilege and pleasure last week to lead Chapel Time for our church’s preschoolers.  Our daughter is a graduate of the preschool, and the program is near and dear to my heart.  I can’t forget the date of her first day:  September 10, 2001.  Three years later, she was among the seven children who comprised the first Pre-K class.  It was the preschool, in fact, that led us to our church.  

During Chapel Time, teachers bring the children into the sanctuary to hear a Bible story, followed by a brief discussion.  The text for the day was from Genesis 18, which recounts a visit by three strangers to Abraham and his wife Sarah.  They bring the message that God will keep the promise he made to them years earlier:  the couple will have a child, despite their advanced age, and one day, their descendants will be more numerous than the stars in the sky.  

I doubted that the kids would find the story of much interest.  How could they relate to an elderly couple longing for a baby?   

Our daughter and some of her preschool buddies, March 19, 2003.

But the Spark Story Bible that we use begins by noting that Abraham was ninety-nine when the three visitors arrived.  This got the children’s attention.  Before I began reading, to assess my audience, I had asked the kids how old they were.  They were eager to respond.

 “I’m four!”  

“I’m five!”  “

I’m about to turn five.”  

“I’ll be four tomorrow.”  

“I’m three and three quarters!”

A few quiet ones held up the appropriate number of fingers.  I also learned random bits of information:  “When we move to our new house, we’re getting a trampoline!”  “I have a loose tooth!”  

A hot day on the preschool playground, June 5, 2002.

The children were amazed at someone being as old as ninety-nine.  They remained attentive as I continued with the narrative.  

I read that Abraham greets the three men and invites them to stay for a meal.  While they eat, they tell him that Sarah will give birth within a year.  The strangers are clearly intended to be messengers from God, or God himself.  Various Biblical versions state that “The Lord” or “God” appeared to Abraham, before referring to three unknown men.  The children’s Bible refers to God’s promise, but doesn’t identify the three strangers.  The title of the story, though, was “Abraham and Sarah’s Visitors.”  

When I looked for images of this subject, I found the famous early fifteenth century icon by the Russian artist Andrei Rublev.  I like to show the kids a picture relating to the story, so I printed out a copy.  

Icon of the Trinity, Andrei Rublev, c. 1410.

The painting shows three figures, winged and haloed, seated at a table, in the center of which is a gold cup.  Neither Abraham nor Sarah are depicted, but a small structure at the top left represents their home, and a stylized tree toward the center indicates the oak grove in the shade of which Abraham was sitting when he first spotted the three unknown men approaching.  The angels’  identical, mournful faces incline toward one another.  Together, the outline of their bodies forms a circle.  The  two figures at left and right enclose a central space in the shape of a chalice, which echoes that of the gilded cup.  

The icon is most often interpreted as the three persons of the Trinity: Father, Son and Holy Spirit.  The placement of the figures around the table calls to mind Christ’s Last Supper.  The graceful interaction among the three suggests spiritual communion.  

October 30, 2002 at the preschool.

I didn’t discuss these fine points  with the children.  The essential lesson, appropriate for all ages, and always timely, is twofold.  First,  God calls us to welcome the stranger.  Abraham met the three unknown men with hospitality.  And in so doing, he unknowingly met God Himself with honor and grace.  As God’s children, we’re expected to treat our brothers and sisters as we ourselves would like to be treated.  When we mistreat others, we mistreat God Himself.  And second, God invites each and every one of us to His table.  There a space for the viewer to join in the holy communion that is generated whenever and wherever we gather in loving kindness with our neighbors near and far.  It materializes, and transforms, when we reach out with thoughtful consideration, even to those with whom we disagree, rather than push away with bitterness, disdain and violence.  

I know there are those who are coming to believe, with much regret, that teaching compassion and humility has become a lost cause, a quaint relic of a naive and distant era. If we want our children to be successful in this cruel world, why bother encouraging them to act with goodness?  Why not teach instead the tools of the bully: arrogance, intimidation, brutality, callousness, and the reverence for self alone?  

Why not?

My own answer is simple:  it goes against everything I learned as a child at home and at church.  It goes against everything I’ve been taught from those who love me. 

As I sat in the midst of those smiling, happy preschoolers, a diverse group, representative of our community’s many ethnicities, I couldn’t imagine trying to foster meanness in them.  They were curious, eager to learn, and open-hearted.  They showed a genuine interest in me.  They were clearly inclined toward goodness.  

It gives me hope and buoys my faith to know that our preschool is only one among many in houses of worship all across our country that continue to do as they’ve always done: emphasize the blessings that come when we walk the path of mercy and kindness. They assure our little ones that God accompanies them, even when the way is uphill, rocky, and perilous.  Schools that affirm the importance of good citizenship are doing their part, as well.  

As the day on which we honor the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. rolls around again, I pray that we don’t give up on teaching our children that through their good works and acts of kindness, however small, they help bend the arc of the moral universe towards justice.

Our daughter on September 10, 2001, her first day of preschool.

Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for some who have done this have entertained angels without realizing it!  (Hebrews 13: 2)

 I tell you the truth, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me! (Matthew 25: 40)