Category Archives: Faith and Spirituality

Can’t We Stop with the Shooting and Killing?

Charlie Kirk was the most recent public figure whose life was cut short by gun violence in America.  His death, on September 10, at 31, was a tragedy.  In no way can his murder be justified.  

Below are some names that represent a tiny fraction of those killed by guns in America. Every single one of these deaths is a tragedy.  In no way can any of these murders be justified.   

Melissa Hortman, 55.

Mark Hortman, 58.

Melissa and Mark, along with their dog, Gilbert, were shot in their Minneapolis home in June of this year.  The couple was targeted by a gunman who disagreed with their political beliefs.  

Jacklyn Cazares, 9.

Makenna Lee Elrod, 10.

Xavier Lopez, 10.

Jacklyn, Makenna and Xavier are three children among twenty-one adults and children killed during the Robb Elementary School shooting in Uvalde, Texas in 2022.

Roberta Drury, 32.

Aaron Salter, Jr., 55.

Ruth Whitfield, 86.

Roberta, Aaron and Ruth are three of the ten individuals killed at the Tops Market shooting in Buffalo, NY in 2022.

Javier Rodriguez, 15.

Maria Flores, 77.

Raul Flores, 83.

Javier, Maria and Raul are among the twenty-three killed in the Walmart shooting in El Paso, Texas in 2019.

Melvin Wax, 87.

Irving Younger, 69.

Richard Gottfried, 65. 

Melvin, Irving and Richard are among the eleven killed in the Tree of Life Synagogue shooting in Pittsburgh, PA in 2018. 

Scott Beigel, 35.

Alyssa Alhadeff, 14.

Nicholas Dworet, 17.

Scott, Alyssa and Nicholas are among the seventeen adults and teens killed in the Marjorie Stoneman Douglas High School shooting in Parkland, FL, in 2018.

Charlotte Bacon, 6.

Dylan Hockley, 6.

Catherine Hubbard, 6 .

Charlotte, Dylan and Catherine are three children among the twenty-six children and adults killed in the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting in Newtown, Connecticut in 2012. 

(In every shooting cited above, gunmen also wounded as many, or more individuals as they killed.)

And then there are these public figures shot down in the past:

Robert Kennedy, 43, in 1968.

Martin Luther King, Jr., 39, in 1968.

Malcolm X, 39, in 1965.

Medgar Evers, 37, in 1963.

John F. Kennedy, 46, in 1963.

Abraham Lincoln, 56, in 1865.

46, 728 people in our country died from guns in 2023, the last year for which we have complete statistics. 

Gun violence has replaced car crashes as the leading cause of death for children and teens in America.

Shooting incidents have shown us that no place is truly safe:  not our schools, (not even those for our youngest children), not our places of worship, not the local grocery store, no public event, and not even our homes.  

Some questions regarding firearm deaths:  

When it comes to gun violence, are some lives more important than others?

Is an “assassination” more of a loss than the indiscriminate killing of strangers?

Must we be personally acquainted with those targeted to be impacted by their deaths?

When it comes to free speech, should protection apply only to those with whom we agree?  Are all others fair game?

Can we at least pause to learn the facts before jumping to demonize our fellow brothers and sisters?

Can we refrain from blaming the actions of a single person on a big group of people with whom we disagree?  

If we are outraged by abortion, shouldn’t we also be outraged by the shooting deaths of young children? 

For those who believe that every person is a child of God, shouldn’t we want to do all we can to reduce the numbers of God’s children shot down every day?  

Aren’t there things on which we all agree that might diminish these horrific numbers?

Can’t we acknowledge our shared humanity and work together to stop killing each other?

Can’t we use those “thoughts and prayers” as a catalyst toward meaningful action?

More Squirrel-Planted Sunflowers

Around this time two years ago, I wrote about the sunflowers that were unexpectedly appearing throughout our back yard.  They were planted not by me, but by squirrels.  We shouldn’t have been surprised at the flowers’ emergence.  We’d been watching our squirrel friends as they chose a single a sunflower seed from below the bird feeders, carefully placed it in the ground (usually on the lawn, to my husband’s dismay) and covered it with soil.  They’d pat down the earth thoroughly with their delicate hands, hop back for another seed and repeat the process.  

Evidently squirrels can be as forgetful as humans, because we have a sunflower garden now.

This summer, the squirrel-farmed yield is particularly plentiful.

Some  lowers are larger than ever.  They stare at me, eye to eye, high atop perches on  thick, prickly robust stalks.   

As I observed in my earlier post, the sunflower is among nature’s  artful miracles of geometry.   A sunflower head is, in fact, a compact colony of tiny flowers.  What appear to be petals are individual flowers known as ray florets.  Their bright yellow color attracts pollinators to the numerous minuscule disc florets of  the center.   Our sunflower garden teems with bees and butterflies.  The  disc florets begin opening around the flower’s outer rim, so that the amazing inner spiral is eventually surrounded by a shaggy, deep golden fringe.  Each one of these florets is a perfect, five-lobed tubular bloom, rather like a lily, sized for a fairy. They will, in time, grow into seeds.  

The individual florets that make up the center are visible in the two photos above.  

I love the way the petal-like ray florets unfold in sections to reveal the sunflower’s round center, as in the photos below.  I’m reminded of a winking eye, or a child playfully peeking through her hands.  

As the flowers age, the disc florets are transformed into seeds, and the ray florets wither.  Once they pass their prime, they attract seed-loving birds, especially similarly colored goldfinches.  The elderly flowers below may lack their youthful loveliness, but they continue to fulfill their purpose.    

If I pause for a moment to survey our squirrel-planted sunflower garden, with flowers at varying points in their life cycles, I can sense that elusive but perpetual presence of the sacred.  It’s evident as the big flowers turn their heads to follow the sun.  I’m reminded that God’s creation is ongoing.  It’s happening all around us, despite the toxic fog of human meanness that we allow to cloud our world.  I can hear the sunflower offering valuable advice:  Follow the light, be a beacon to those who need you, and live abundantly, at every stage along the journey!  

From one Pope to Another

St. Peter’s Basilica on Good Friday, April 8, 1985, taken during my first, and perhaps only trip to Rome.

With the passing of Pope Francis last month, the world lost a rare spiritual leader, one who managed to remain uncorrupted by the power his prestigious earthly office afforded him.  He embodied humility.  He didn’t just preach about the need to care for the poor, the sick, and those on the margins.  He lived that calling, daily.  When he washed the feet of prisoners or shared a table with the street people of Rome, he wasn’t performing.  By all accounts, his goal was authentic connection with real people, not publicity stunts or photo ops.  Before becoming Pope, he’d been Jorge Mario Bergoglio, a pastor and good shepherd who led his flock with compassion.  As Pope, pastoral care remained a priority.  Like Jesus, he was concerned for lost sheep, for those who went astray.  Like Jesus, he interacted frequently with ordinary people.  Like Jesus, he lived a life of virtue; he didn’t merely signal it.   He gave the glory to God.  

I had feared, and rather expected, that a new Pope would mean a shift away from Francis’s emphasis on humility and concern for the downtrodden.  I was afraid that Francis’s successor might be one who put more emphasis on the imperial majesty of the Papacy and strict adherence to the finer points of Church doctrine rather than on living out the message of Jesus.   

And so I was surprised and relieved when Robert Francis Prevost from Chicago was announced as the 267th Pope.  An American who spent much of his life in Peru, he began his first message to the world with the words “Peace be with you.”  He connected that greeting, the first words of the resurrected Jesus to his assembled disciples, with Pope Francis’s final Easter blessing.  He spoke in Italian, Spanish and Latin, but not in English.  He spoke of the need to build bridges through “dialogue and encounter.”  He spoke of a universal Church that opens her loving arms wide to all, as welcoming as the long, curved colonnade of St. Peter’s Basilica.  He quoted St. Augustine in saying, “With you, I’m a Christian, but for you, I’m a Bishop.”  He spoke of a Church that works together in service for justice and the common good.  And he said, with firm resolution: “God loves you all, and evil will not prevail.”  

Cardinal Robert Prevost, or Bob to his friends, chose the Papal name of Leo XIV.  The last Leo, who held the office from 1878 – 1903, was a champion of the working poor and an advocate for social justice.  The new Pope’s name choice signals his like-mindedness.  His initial message yesterday as Pope, as well as the impressions of those acquainted with him, suggest that he will not veer substantially from the path set forth by Pope Francis.

I’m a lifelong United Methodist, not a Catholic, but the Pope is considered by many to be a prominent representative of Christ here on earth, so  his words and actions matter to me.  I happened to see Pope John Paul II heading towards St. Peter’s on Good Friday, 1985.  I was in Rome with my boyfriend at the time, an avowed agnostic, disdainful of organized religion, yet possessed of a strong moral compass.  When all those around us burst into cheers at the sight of the Pope waving benevolently to us from behind the glass shield of the Popemobile, Jonathan joined me and the crowd in exuberant applause.  The Pope is a significant figure in the world, even to those who may think they see him as irrelevant. 

I hope the leadership of this new Pope will serve as a reminder to all Christians, but especially to Americans, Roman Catholic and Protestant alike, that Jesus beckons us to a faith surpassing all boundaries made by human hands.  The resurrected Christ called his followers to make disciples not just of their fellow Israelites, but “of all nations” (Matthew 28: 19).  The concept of “Christian nationalism” goes against the very principles of love and inclusion preached and modeled by Jesus.

Habemus Papam.  We have a Pope. 

May Pope Leo XIV be an ethical inspiration for people the world over, no matter their faith, or lack of it, to work together, with patience and kindness, toward peace.  

View of Rome from the Forum, April 1985.

 

 

 

 

 

 

On Good Friday: It is Finished!

“It is finished!” And he bowed his head and released his spirit.

The Gospel of John (19: 30) records these final dying words of Jesus, spoken from the cross. A quick reading might prompt one to hear this utterance as the sad lament of defeated man. Not so fast, though. The Gospel writers Matthew (27:50) and Mark (15:37) don’t report Jesus’s last words. They tell us only that he “shouted out again” or “cried out again in a loud voice” before breathing his last. If we use all three accounts as evidence, what the Son of God likely said was a single word evoking not loss, but satisfactory completion. He spoke in Aramaic, but the original Greek of John’s gospel translates it as “tetelestai.”

This word would have been familiar in several contexts to the people of first-century Palestine. Having completed the last task of the day, a worker might tell his boss, “Tetelestai.” An artist, putting the final touch on a painting, might use the same word. A debt paid in full would be stamped “Tetelestai.” For Jews, the word would have been the Greek equivalent of a familiar Hebrew phrase announced by the High Priest each year on the Day of Atonement. After offering the proper sacrificial animals at the altar of the Holy of Holies at the Temple in Jerusalem, the priest emerged to tell the assembled crowd that God had accepted the sacrifice of the people.*

Jesus’s final cry before dying was therefore no whimper of pained surrender. Instead it was an exclamation of triumph.** The various frames of reference for “tetelestai” mentioned above are all helpful in understanding Jesus’s use of the word and what his death means for us. His earthly work is done, the masterpiece completed, the debt paid, the perfect sacrifice offered and accepted. In other words, “Mission Accomplished!”

Three of the Gospels include an often overlooked, but immensely significant detail that stands as proof of the change ushered in by Christ’s death. According to Mark 15: 38: “And the curtain in the sanctuary of the Temple was torn in two, from top to bottom.” This was the curtain in the Temple of Jerusalem which separated the Holy Place from the Most Holy Place. This sacred space housed the Ark of the Covenant, considered by the Jewish people to be the very throne of God. Only priests could enter the Holy place. The High Priest alone entered into that sanctified inner realm, the Holy of Holies, and then, only once a year, on that holiest of all days, The Day of Atonement, or Yom Kippur.

Although sometimes referred to as a veil, the Temple curtain was no delicate, gauzy thing that might have ripped easily in a gusty wind. It was a heavy, brocaded cloth, woven with images of protective angels. Only an intentional act of great force could have caused the Temple curtain to be torn fully asunder. Both Matthew and Mark tell us that it was divided from top to bottom, as though from on high. Human hands had no part in this. This was God’s work.

Having destroyed the barrier to the Holy of Holies, God invites his people to approach him directly. Middlemen are no longer needed. The ultimate gift of atonement invites us to be “at one” with God. Having willingly offered his own life for our sins, Jesus and his father tell us that animal sacrifices are a thing of the past. The perfect Lamb of God has paid our debt in full. We are redeemed. Tetelestai!

This is what Jesus referred to earlier at the Last Supper, when he took the cup and told his disciples, “This is my blood of the new covenant, poured out for you and for many for the forgiveness of sins. “(Matthew 26:28) We, and all generations before and after us, are among the many. It was on this same night that Jesus reduced the entirety of his message to this one essential commandment: “Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.” (John 13: 34) See yesterday’s Maundy Thursday post.

So, what then is required of us in these days of the New Covenant? It’s not a matter of mastering complicated theological concepts and demanding the same of others.  Instead, we’re invited to accept the gift  given to us in love by our brother and savior Jesus. To admit our shortcomings and try to do better. To focus less on ourselves and more on others. To get back to basics: “Do justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God.” (Micah 6:8) Think about that. We have a God who truly desires to walk with us. He wants to walk the road with us, to share in our sufferings as well as in our joys. And if we’re willing to walk with God day by day, in good times and in bad, loving him, loving our neighbors, we usher in his kingdom here on earth, as it is in heaven.

The Temple curtain has been torn. No barrier remains between us and our loving, faithful God. Tetelestai!

For I am sure that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8: 38-39)

*Michael Maynard discusses the various meanings of “tetelestai” here: It is Finished. . .The Last Words of Jesus, June 25, 2017. 

** See Final Words from the Cross, by Adam Hamilton, pp. 103-104.

On Maundy Thursday, Why Not Choose Love?

Today is Maundy Thursday, the day in the Christian calendar that commemorates Jesus’s Last Supper. The unusual word “maundy” (not Maunday) comes from mandatum, the Latin for command, because we remember the new commandment that Jesus gave his disciples on his final night with them.  I wrote a version of this post four years ago, but it’s perhaps even more relevant today, when it appears that meanness, it all its many extravagant forms, is glorified.  If those of us who call ourselves Christians were to take the message of Jesus to heart and actively try to follow his example, rather than that of the religious leaders who condemned him, wouldn’t the world be a far better place? 

On the night of his betrayal and arrest, Jesus gathered with his disciples for one last Passover meal together. He knew his life on earth was drawing to a close. He had tried to explain to his dearest friends that he would soon be facing death, and doing so willingly.  But the disciples, understandably, didn’t understand. Probably some of them were expecting to witness a magnificent earthly triumph. Judas, the betrayer, may have been counting on such a victory. None of the disciples, it seems, were expecting their friend, teacher and Messiah to die an ordinary criminal’s death on the cross.

The group must have been fearful and confused. They were back in crowded, dangerous Jerusalem, where Jesus’s life had been threatened multiple times during clashes with the Jewish religious leaders. And so, on that fateful final night, Jesus had the full and rapt attention of his disciples. He chose his words, and his actions, with care.

According to the Gospel of John (13:1 – 17), after the meal, he did something completely unexpected: he got up from the table and began to wash the feet of his friends. In those days, traveling, for people of ordinary means, meant walking, in sandals, or even barefoot, along dusty, dirty roads, through fields and stretches of sandy wilderness. A servant typically washed the feet of guests as they entered a home. If there were no servants, guests usually washed their own feet from a basin near the door. John the Baptist refers to this practice when asked by Jewish leaders if he is the Messiah. According to John 1:27, he replies, “I baptize with water. Someone greater stands among you, whom you don’t recognize. He comes after me, but I’m not worthy to untie his sandal straps.” The disciples were clearly uncomfortable with their leader and teacher washing their dirty feet. Had foot washing been done upon entering the upper room that night? It’s uncertain. Maybe there had been no basin set up for the purpose until Jesus poured water into one, as mentioned in John 13:5. The Pharisees had criticized Jesus when they noticed that some of his disciples failed to wash their hands before eating (Mark 7: 1-5). Certainly, Jesus’s focus was not on Jewish rituals of purity. External, physical cleanliness was evidently not one of his primary concerns. He may not have been a stickler for foot-washing prior to that last gathering.

The disciple Peter’s reaction supports this (John 13: 6-11). Peter was fiery, passionate and impulsive. Like many of us, he was often a bit dense. He couldn’t stand the idea of Jesus abasing himself to wash his feet. Foot washing was the job of an underling, a slave. Peter jumped up and exclaimed, “You’ll never wash my feet!” When Jesus replied, “Unless I wash you, you won’t belong to me,” Peter was all in. “Then wash my hands and head as well, Lord, not just my feet!”

Jesus went on to explain his puzzling behavior. “Do you understand what I was doing? You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and you are right, because that’s what I am. And since I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you ought to wash each other’s feet. I have given you an example to follow. . .Now that you know these things, God will bless you for doing them.” (13:12-15, 17).

Jesus wanted his disciples to understand that he had in mind much more than literal foot washing. Following his example is to mean humbling oneself in order to serve and help others. To further drive home his point, he continued: “So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples” (13:34-35).

 

Jesus had spent three years traveling with this rag-tag group.  They’d heard him teach and preach, seen him heal the sick and cast out demons.  On three separate occasions, he’d even restored the dead to life.  The disciples had been with him as he confronted the Jewish authorities and challenged their interpretation of the Law.  Sometimes his words and actions had been difficult to comprehend.  But on the night before his death, Jesus summed up the essence of his ministry in the simplest of terms:  Serve others.  Love others.  Just as I have served and loved you, so you should love others.

Simple words, but tricky to put into practice.  Why not at least give it a go?  Vindictiveness offers a brief jolt of satisfaction, but doesn’t it leave a bad taste?  In forgiving, we refuse to be destroyed by bitterness and anger.  The wise counsel of our dear brother Jesus is food that strengthens and sustains us, for the long term.  He urges us to be kind and compassionate, to all our neighbors, whether we like them or not, whether they are like us, or not.  Of course, we won’t always succeed. Sometimes we’ll backslide and act in ways that are selfish and petty. But if we persevere, we can change the world, little by little, through service and love. That’s what Jesus meant when he talked about building God’s Kingdom here on earth.  He wasn’t referring to a kingdom that can be built through military might or governmental power.  Attempts to do so only backfire.  The true kingdom is more like a community garden.  When we plant seeds of love, and when we nurture seedlings that others have sown, we can rejoice in the certainty that the garden is growing.  Its roots, we can be sure, are deep and wide-reaching.  Let’s try to do our part, in the time that we have, to tend this beautiful garden so that it may flourish and bring forth good fruit.  

 

 

Palm Sunday 2025

Palm Sunday begs to be distinguished from just any other first day of the week. It launches the period known by Christians the world over as Holy Week. Palm Sunday sets an expectant, celebratory tone, one that contrasts, shockingly and painfully, with the shattering disappointment of the terrible day we call Good Friday. In between falls the oddness of Maundy Thursday. So much is packed into the events of these seven days, which lead up to the triumphant culmination of Easter. Indeed, without Easter, the story of new life, hope and possibility would have been one of failure, death and despair. I’ve written about the days of Holy Week several times before. Below is my Palm Sunday post from April 1, 2012.

Palm Sunday: Everyone Loves a Winner

On the day that we’ve come to think of as Palm Sunday, Jesus was hailed as a celebrity, a military and political hero-to-be.  As he and his disciples entered  the city of Jerusalem, cheering crowds greeted him with cries of “Hosanna,” which means “Save us.” The news was out: at long last, the King of Israel was here.  He was the chosen one sent by God to restore power to the Jewish nation.  He rode on a donkey to fulfill the prophecy in Zechariah 9:9:  See, your king comes to you, righteous and having salvation, gentle and riding on a donkey.

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It was a brief time of great rejoicing for the people of Israel.  A new day of freedom and empowerment was dawning, thanks to the advent of the conquering Messiah.  The palm branches they waved were emblems of Israeli nationalism.

In just a few days, though, the tide would turn.  Jesus’s being hailed as the much-awaited Messiah would set in motion the events that would lead to his death.  The admiring throngs would scatter when it became clear that he was not the kind of king they had desired and expected.  Even his dearest friends would desert him.  He would be betrayed by one of his own, turned over to the Roman authorities and crucified. On Good Friday, it would appear that this man was no winner.

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Good Friday, however, is not the end of the story.

Remembering Grandma (As My Perfect Mother-in-Law)

In memory of my mother-in-law Doretta, who passed away at the beginning of March, I reprint this post from October 2012.  See previous post for more about my husband’s lovely mother. 

I have the perfect mother-in-law. The only down side to this is that I’m unable to participate in the swapping of mother-in-law horror stories. I’ve heard many such accounts, and other than gasps of incredulity, I have nothing to add. I’ve listened in amazement to tales of the mother-in-law who “helps” with the new baby by bellowing orders, complaints, and increasingly outlandish requests from a command center on the family room sofa. I’ve heard about the M.I.L. who, determined to ensure that her son’s house run on her rules or not at all, regards each visit as an opportunity for a hostile takeover. I’ve listened to anecdotes about the M.I.L. whose sensitive temperament is constantly wounded by imagined slights tossed off by a cruel daughter-in-law. And I’ve heard everything in between.

With my mother in law, there is no drama.  She is sweet, good, and uncomplicated.  She is kind,  thoughtful and intelligent.  During visits to our home, she asks how she may help.  She is not overbearing.  She does not insist, but she never offers out of empty politesse.  It has taken me a while, but I’ve learned to accept her assistance.  I come from what may be a predominately Southern tradition of automatically refusing the first few offers of guests’ help, thereby forcing them to insist or be considered rude.  Now, when Grandma* asks if I need help with dinner, I tend to say Yes, please! She is a calm, easy presence, and it’s a pleasure to share the house, and the chores, with her.

Like everyone in H’s family, his mother welcomed me warmly at our first meeting, now over twenty years ago.  She has never implied (as some mothers of sons are known to do), that no living woman could be a worthy companion of the god-like boy-child she birthed.  She has a deservedly high opinion of H, and she has always treated me as his equal.

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H’s mother is a loving grandmother to our daughter and to her other four grandchildren.  Gentle and fun, she laughs easily, and she remembers what it was like to be a child.  I’ve heard about grandparents who cannot be trusted with their own grandchildren.  This was never an issue with either set of my daughter’s grandparents, thankfully.  When D was nearly three, my husband and I, along with my parents, took a trip to France, leaving our daughter in the care of Grandma and Grandpa.  We missed our baby girl, but we had no worries about her welfare, either emotional or physical, during those ten days.  We knew she was in devoted and capable hands.

Grandma’s attitude is generally one of meekness, and some might take her for a pushover.  This, however, is not the case.  When she feels strongly that righteousness is on her side, she is tough, patient and determined to persevere. One year, when H’s windsurfing board went missing in Cape Cod, she summoned Grandpa to accompany her on a walk.  With slow, thorough deliberation, she surveyed the property carefully, until she discovered H’s board leaning up against the wall of another cottage way across the green.  Thanks to her gracious yet firm intervention, H’s board was soon being carried back to its rightful place by those who, no doubt, had removed it.

The photo above shows our daughter with Grandma at Cape Cod.  In D’s younger years, she always urged H and me to go out for date night during our vacation, so she could enjoy a full evening of food and fun with Grandma and Grandpa.

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Grandma is always ready for a game with a grandchild, whether it’s air hockey, Chinese Checkers, Candyland or Chutes & Ladders.

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Grandpa is a lucky man, and he knows it.  He has Grandma by his side, no matter what.  During their long marriage they’ve had their share of hell and high water, in addition to many joys.  They are a formidable team, and together, with their strong faith in God’s love and grace, they know they can weather any storm.  Grandma has a gift for finding and sharing that kernel of sweetness within the tough husk of the bad.

Thank you, Grandma, for enriching the lives of all those you touch.  Happy Birthday, and many more to follow!

*When I speak to my mother-in-law, I call her by her first name, which is an unusual, pretty name.  But here, I will refer to her as Grandma. When I wrote about H’s father, her husband, I referred to him as Grandpa (June 2012), so I’ll be consistent.

Goodbye, to Grandma

At one of her favorite spots, with a book at the picnic table outside her family’s Cape Cod rental cottage

My dear mother-in-law Doretta passed away in the early hours of March 4th.  Since her beloved husband Jim left this world in October of 2022, she’d been lonely.  She didn’t complain.  But when asked, or when his name was mentioned, she’d always say, “I just miss him so much.”  She carried on, despite her sadness and the growing physical challenges of Parkinsons’ and Addison’s Disease. 

I  had the pleasure of seeing her most Wednesday nights for the past several years. During the height of the pandemic, she joined my mother and me and other friends for an online Bible study through our church here in Virginia.  As her mobility decreased, attending her local Rochester church, and getting out at all, became increasingly difficult.  Our mid-week virtual gathering had become one of her few fellowship opportunities, and she appreciated the warm welcome our group extended to her.  With my husband’s and his sister’s help, she learned to use Zoom on her iPad in order to join us.  This was quite the feat, considering Jim had always been the one to deal with any and all tech matters.  During the sessions we’d often hear Barney the cockatiel chirping away happily in the background.  Barney, like Doretta, had been bereft after Jim’s passing.  An odd, cantankerous bird, he was prone to hissing with apparent vehemence at everyone who was not his best pal Jim.  Over the past two years, he warmed up to Doretta, and the two became good company.  It was her nightly ritual to sit with him in the family room,  watching TV or reading.  She found that he got particularly chirpy during the musical performances on old Lawrence Welk re-runs.  

At about age three, in her hometown of Jamestown, NY

Doretta was determined not to relocate from her house, which she and Jim had built as newlyweds in 1965. Thanks to the help of my sister-in-law Julie, who lives locally,  several regular care-givers, many walkers and two stair lifts, one to the basement and another to the second floor, she had been able to remain in the home she loved so much.  When my husband returned there the morning after his mom’s passing, on the table beside her favorite chair, he found her Bible, some recent books from our Zoom studies, and a manual on coping with Parkinsons’.  He saw them as a testament to her quiet, patient perseverance.  Throughout adversity, her faith was strong.  Life tossed many hardships her way, but she pushed through, with a kind, encouraging word for others.  She was a light bearer in our often dark world.  It feels odd not seeing Doretta’s Zoom square on Wednesday nights, not to see her sweet smiling face, not to hear Barney’s tweets. I like to think of her in that heavenly cloud of witnesses, reunited joyfully with her darling Jim.

   

Maple Sugaring in Virginia

As my husband made plans for maple sugaring, he learned to keep a close eye on the weather, and to be prepared to act.  We’d always thought of February as the prime maple sugar month.  But H learned last year that it’s the temperature, not the specific time of year, that determines the best sugaring conditions.  The perfect fluctuation of temperatures, in fact, is necessary.  Cold nights, when the thermometer dips below freezing, and warming, sunny days, are what gets the sap really flowing.  During the second week of January, when temperatures ranged from the twenties to the forties, H tapped several sugar maples in my mother’s yard.  Soon, the white pails were filling with sap.  He checked them each night, emptying the liquid into a larger bucket for storage in our basement fridge.

He began the long boiling process on a weekend when he had few other projects.   Every gallon of sap requires about an hour of boiling time.  He’d collected about twelve gallons, and he boiled six gallons at a time.  To avoid turning our kitchen into an ultra-high-humidity zone during six hours of boiling, H began the process outside on the grill.  Once the amount of liquid had been reduced by about 80%, he finished the process inside.  The longer the liquid is boiled, the more viscous it becomes. During this final phase, our house was filled with the heavenly scent of sugar-rich steam. 

The reason that most maple sugar comes from northern locales is that the sugar content of maples is higher there.  Sugar maples in northern states and Canada typically have a sap to syrup ratio of about 40-1,  so that forty gallons of sap yields one gallon of syrup.  Farther south, as here in Virginia, that ratio is about 70 – 1. 

After the boiling process is finished, the syrup is filtered to remove any impurities. 

A bit of early-season syrup, light in color.

My husband found that the sap from the earliest part of the season produced syrup that was light in color.  Longer boiling does not affect the color, (unless reduced to the point of burning, of course).   In taste, this early harvest was subtle.  It was sugary, with only slight hints of maple flavor.  

The late-season sap resulted in syrup that was a dark mahogany color.  The flavor was bright and robust.  It was pure maple essence.  It takes more sap, and more boiling time for maple sugaring here in Virginia than in western New York, but the end result, we know now, is equally tasty.  Mid-Atlantic maples can produce a liquid gold as fine as their Yankee cousins. 

Hours spent around the big pot of bubbling sap, inhaling the sweetness of the steam, are apt to inspire contemplation.  “Amazing, isn’t it, that we can extract this liquid from trees in our own yard and turn it into this great-tasting stuff,” my husband remarked.  “And it’s even more amazing that the sap is there in the first place.  There’s enough to nourish the tree, and plenty left over for us.  If God were to boast about his wonders, this should be included.”

I agreed, and the biblical conversation between God and Job immediately came to mind: 

Who created a channel for the torrents of rain?  Who laid out the path for the lightning? 

Who makes the rain fall on barren land, in a desert where no one lives?

Who sends rain to satisfy the parched ground and make the tender grass spring up?

Does the rain have a father?  Who gives birth to the dew?

Who is the mother of the ice?  Who gives birth to the frost from the heavens? (Job 38: 25- 29, New Living Translation)

God directs Job’s attention to his supreme authority over the skies, the seas, over light and darkness, and to the unique characteristics of his many, fantastically varied creatures, including lions and goats, the wild donkey, the ox, the horse and the eagle.  The miracle of maple syrup could well be included among these marvels, it seems to me.  Perhaps in words like these:  

Who commands and compels the life-blood of the trees of the forest?  Who sets the sweet sap rising and flowing in the maples?  Who sends it forth to nurture and bless the woodpecker and the shepherd?

So  yes, every taste of our homemade maple syrup is yet another reminder of the bounty of God’s  gifts.  It’s best enjoyed, in our opinion, over buckwheat pancakes made from the Cartwright family recipe.  Our syrup may be from Southern trees, but my husband’s sugar-making experience is rooted in the wilds of upstate New York.  The seeds were planted long ago during his first family visit to the remote Maple Tree Inn.  One of life’s sweet pleasures still flourishes, across the miles and years.  Grandpa Stan would be proud.