One Thumb Up

A couple of years ago, during one of the covid winters when our family was together non-stop, my husband and daughter undertook a drastic pruning of the ancient azaleas in front of our house.  They’d grown long, leggy, unruly and generally unattractive. Several rejuvenated nicely.  Others did not. We replaced some of the shrubs, but a grouping of the biggest, barest stumps remained. 

This spring, we bought four new azaleas to fill in some of the last empty spaces. I advised on positioning, but my husband did the hard work of digging and planting the first three. The final shrub was destined for the spot occupied by the largest and boniest of the stumps. 

It was a Sunday afternoon, and H had had enough gardening.  Other home-improvement projects required his attention.  In and around our old house, and my mother’s next door, there is always something to be fixed. 

I eyed the dead plants.  They looked like old bones protruding from the ground. Unsightly. It was really time for them to go.  I could dig, right? So I dug.  And dug, and dug.  I successfully extracted two of the stubborn clumps. I was working on the third, almost finished.  I tugged hard on one of the thick branches near the base. It broke, and I pitched forward suddenly.  To prevent possible impalement on the remaining branches, I caught myself as I fell, landing hard on my right hand, stretched wide.

Ow!  Ow! Ow! Gosh, that hurt.  But my hand seemed intact.  My thumb, though throbbing with pain, wasn’t loose and dangling.  Probably just a sprain, I assumed. And the stump, that offensive thing, still sat smugly in the ground.  I would not leave this job unfinished.  I continued digging until I could lift it from the soil.  With my left hand, of course.

I iced my hand and avoided using it.  Which made the most basic activities awkward, of course. A couple of days later, my husband expressed concern that the thumb could be broken.  He thought it looked alarmingly swollen.  I thought he was overreacting.  But I made an appointment with an orthopedic group for later in the week.  By that time the swelling had lessened considerably.  I’d get it checked out, I expected, and would be potting my extensive array of annuals by the afternoon.

Much to my surprise, x-rays showed a small, wedge-shaped fragment at the base of the thumb that had cracked away from the rest of the bone. I was even more surprised when the doctor said “We would cast this.” 

“Cast it? As what?,” I thought, not yet comprehending.   Then it hit me: Oh.  Put it in a cast.  Wow. I’d never had a cast. And I didn’t expect to be getting one last Thursday.

I was given the option of a waterproof cast, which I readily chose.  I recalled the difficulties involved in keeping our dog Kiko’s splint dry when he injured his leg as a two-year old. We were advised to cover the splint with an IV bag adhered with duct tape.  This method was inadequate, to say the least, and led to much frustration, both canine and human.  See here.  Last week, during the casting process, several young technicians gathered around to watch. Evidently broken thumbs had been rarely seen recently in the practice. “Where are you going that you need a waterproof cast?,” asked one of the group, likely imagining some tropical paradise.   

“Well. . . home,” I replied, envisioning the kitchen sink.  “I’m just thinking about how to manage cooking, cleaning, the usual household stuff. Washing my hair.”

Especially since my thumb is wrapped up right to the tip, I thought, watching as the technician set it at a prominent angle relative to the rest of my hand. Before the cast, I could manage some movement in my thumb. Now, there would be absolutely none. I guess that’s the point. 

I know I’ve been fortunate never to have broken a bone before.  I know I’m lucky that in my fall, I broke only my thumb.  Not several fingers, not my wrist, or worse.  But still, what would I be able to do, and not do, with only one working thumb?

I realized that I wouldn’t know until I tried. 

Cristo Vive (Christ is Risen)

May the promise of Easter give you strength and courage to face the trials of this world.   May it bring you inner assurance even during difficult times.  May it inspire you to treat your neighbors (even the difficult ones) with kindness and love.  May it guide you to find glimmers of light in the darkness, and beauty in the everyday.  And may it give you a deep and abiding hope for the life to come, when trials, difficulties and darkness will be no more. 

Happy Easter!

Christ is risen, Christ is living, dry your tears, be unafraid!

Death and darkness could not hold him, nor the tomb in which he lay.

Do not look among the dead for one who lives for evermore;

tell the world that Christ is risen, make it known he goes before.

If the Lord had never risen, we’d have nothing to believe;

but his promise can be trusted: “You will live, because I live.”

As we share the death of Adam, so in Christ we live again;

death has lost its sting and terror, Christ the Lord has come to reign.

Death has lost its old dominion, let the world rejoice and shout!

Christ, the firstborn of the living, gives us life and leads us out.

Let us thank our God, who causes hope to spring up from the ground.

Christ is risen, Christ is giving life eternal, life profound.

Words: Nicolas Martinez, 1960; trans. by Fred Kaan, 1972

(1 Corinthians 15)

Music: Pablo D. Sosa, 1960

Here Again: This Holiest of Weeks

It’s a chilly but beautiful Palm Sunday today here in Northern Virginia, a perfect day for observing the swirl of activity that surrounds our side yard bird feeders. In the bright sunshine, the male cardinals glow brilliantly red, and the subtle shading in the feathers of their female counterparts is particularly apparent. Their beaks are as orange as ripe clementines. A pair of goldfinches, recent arrivals, adds to the palette. The male wears a patchwork of flamboyant, purest yellow and the drab olive green of his mate. The light accentuates the rusty red cap of a tiny, ground-feeding chipping sparrow. The swoop of scarlet on the head of a robust red-bellied woodpecker gleams with near-iridescence. An aptly named golden-crowned kinglet put in a rare, brief appearance, hanging upside down from the new buds on a Japanese maple. Each small, feathered creature is a masterpiece of aesthetics and engineering. To watch their fleeting comings and goings on this dazzling day is to catch a breath full of spring’s celebratory essence. To be reminded that in our flawed and frightening world, filled with wars, guns and discord, it is still possible to savor a sip of joy. And of hope.

Such a reminder is especially appropriate on this first day of Holy Week. Christians across the globe look forward to the triumph of Easter. But first there is this roller-coaster ride of a week, one that begins on Palm Sunday’s jubilant note and plunges to the painful depths of despair on Good Friday. To jump from the high point of Palm Sunday to that of Easter is to miss the point. To do so is to ignore much of what it means to be human, and to be miss out on the marvelous magnitude of grace that is the Easter promise.

Over the past eleven years of Wild Trumpet Vine, I’ve written numerous times about the days of Holy Week. See here for last year’s Palm Sunday post.

Welcome, Spring!

Once again, spring arrives here in the greater DC area with the coldest weather of the year. We saw some chilly days in January and February, and a few snowflakes here and there, but never enough to turn the ground even mostly white. Winter, as we’ve come to know it, was essentially a no-show. These first days of the official spring season are apparently trying to make up for that. After February’s mildness, the roaring winds of March feel particularly aggressive. But spring’s dependable players–the hearty daffodils, the pear and cherry trees–they know their roles, and they’re here just the same.

Ongoing home improvement projects have preoccupied me recently and kept my thoughts too unfocused for writing. But like spring’s regulars, I’m still here. And still fortunate to be able to appreciate the ever-changing beauty that lies behind my doors.

May the rebirth that surrounds us this new season bring us all assurance, hope and cheer!

Ash Wednesday 2023: Beyond the Ashes

Ash Wednesday is, indeed, about ashes. But it’s also about what lies beyond the ashes. On this day of the Christian calendar, we’re encouraged to confront and contemplate our mortality, our weakness, our tendency to get things wrong. But we’re not to stop there, wallowing in pity and self-loathing. Because we’re not left in the ashes, abandoned, alone and forlorn. Help is at hand, if we choose to accept it. God, our loving parent, our good shepherd, seeks us out. He calls us, his children, his lost lambs, by name. If we let him, he walks with us through debris and decay into a place where there are no ashes. We can’t imagine such a destination, or such a state of being. We certainly don’t deserve it. But that’s the magic and the beauty of the promise of grace.

This time last year, the darkness of Ash Wednesday felt especially pervasive, oppressive and heavy. Putin had just begun his attempted takeover of Ukraine. While the future was uncertain, it was clear that the situation would get worse before it began to improve. And the terrifying consequences would extend far beyond the boundaries of the Ukrainian state. The good news, so far, is that Russia’s tyrant didn’t get the quick victory that he had expected. The Ukrainians, defying all odds, have shown amazing grit and courage, forming an impressively effective ragtag force of small Davids battling the Russian Goliath. The bad news, of course, is that the destructive, deadly struggle continues, despite the fortitude of Ukraine and the support of the United States and many other countries.

In last year’s Ash Wednesday post, I wrote about a Ukrainian woman who was interviewed as she sheltered with her children and others in a ravaged space in downtown Kyiv. As she spoke, her infant daughter slept soundly in her arms. The baby, she said, was a vital source of hope to her and to those around her. The child offered living, breathing proof of ongoing goodness in the evils of a war-torn world. I think of that child and her family now. Have they survived? Is that baby a chattering toddler now, walking boldly with her mother and siblings through the rubble? I pray that she is, and that she continues to be a bright light in the shadows of the ruins.

The promise of Ash Wednesday is like the promise of a new baby. It reminds us not to underestimate the power and persistence of love. Let’s reach out for the hand that leads us through the ashes toward a renewal beyond the reach of death. And toward that unimaginable, but glorious, other side.

A Look Back on End-of-Year Greetings, featuring Daughter and Dog

Our 2002 card.

Over the past decade, I’ve been sending out the family Christmas cards later and later. A few years ago, in an effort to remove one item from my very full December “to do” list, they officially became New Year’s cards.

Now that it’s mid-January, a big stack of cards is ready to be addressed and mailed. As I’ve incorporated my mother’s list of friends into our own, the stack has grown taller. 

I enjoy receiving personalized holiday cards. A pastor friend once remarked that he considered only biblical images as appropriate subjects for Christmas cards. I disagree, respectfully. I appreciate a card with an artfully painted starlit manger scene or a medieval Madonna and Child. But I also welcome one that shows a friend’s new baby, the kids, the dog, the recent bride and groom, the whole family. The annual holiday card exchange, as I see it, is a fortuitous way to keep a connection alive with those we care about, yet don’t have opportunities to see frequently. I understand that just because the card’s accompanying message may be one of Christmas cheer, there is no assertion that the family members pictured are endowed with the holiness of the Christ child. That friend is telling me this:  Another year has passed, and we continue to think of you. Our shared relationship matters. And here’s what we look like now.

My parents were reluctant photographers. When we had a working camera during my childhood, we often lacked the requisite flash bulbs (something only those of a certain age will understand.) We never went to a photo studio for a posed family picture. We got one of those every few years when the new church directory came out. Of course we didn’t send photo cards at Christmas.   

It took parenthood for me to consider the idea. The year our daughter turned one, my mother made an elf costume for her out of soft, fuzzy fleece. That began my custom of the annual Christmas photo session. I’d dress D in a festive outfit sewn by Mama, either expressly for her, or passed down from my childhood. (As I’ve noted before, we’re a family of savers. We keep, we re-use, we re-purpose.) For our Christmas card that year, I bought standard cards and included a photo of D in elf attire. (See “Our Baby Elf,” December 2014.)

D, nearly two, at the little pink table that had been mine and my mother’s before me, December 2000. She wears a velvet top that Mama had made for me at age two.

The following year, our daughter moved to the front of the card. My early photo card efforts were low-tech. I bought Christmas cards featuring a border that I liked, cut out the central image and pasted a photo behind it. This is clearly visible in the card at the top of the post.

D with Kiko, December 2007.

In 2007, our new puppy joined the household and began to be featured with our daughter in the Christmas photo. Above, D, age eight, holds three-month old Kiko. She wears a Nordic style fleece jacket and hat made by my mother. Kiko wears a red fleece vest, also made by Mama. This marked one of the last times that we tried to put our dog in clothes.

December 2009
December 2010
December 2011.

As both D and Kiko approached their adolescent years, they became less willing subjects for my photography, no matter the occasion. But we still managed a few sweet pictures.

When I switched to a digital photo printing service, more possibilities opened up. It became easier to include multiple pictures on the annual card, including highlights from throughout the year. The December photo shoot was no longer a necessity. Sometimes my husband, my mother and I even make it onto the card, typically in smaller photos. Our distant friends have proof that we’re still alive, but they don’t have to see our aging faces too closely.

One year all humans were relegated to the back of the card, leaving the front to Kiko surveying a majestic snow.

In recent years, as Kiko moved into his senior phase, our daughter re-embraced the idea of posing with him. Above is the final daughter and dog portrait for our annual card, sent out last year.

Kiko was with us for almost seven months of 2022. He’s on our card this year, in his own photo. I caught him at his happiest, when he was asleep.

And next year? Who knows what life holds? That’s part of its beauty. We don’t know. So, anything, in theory, is possible.

May this new year bring you welcome surprises!

The Twelfth Day of Christmas, in January 2023

Until today, the homemade clothespin nativity that shelters beneath our little alpine trees in the dining room has included only Mary, Joseph, the baby Jesus, and one shepherd. (Sparkly arctic critters happen to fit in with the high-tech “white sheet as snow” decor.)

The three wise men from the East, along with their flamboyantly curly-haired camel, have been waiting patiently in the background since Advent began in early December.

And now, on the sixth of January, known in the Christian calendar as Epiphany, the long journey of the Magi is complete. They join the Holy Family and pay their tribute to the infant messiah. Their participation in the Biblical nativity narrative is indicative of this important message: God sent his son to be a savior not only for the Hebrew people, but for all the nations. For all of us. For all God’s children.

So in our house, we don’t take the Christmas decorations down until well after January 6th. To do so, it seems, would represent an attempt to symbolically stifle the powerful message of God’s love for all. (It also happens that I’m never ready at this point to begin the laborious process of un-decorating. And it would be inhospitable to kick the Magi out immediately after their arrival.)

On this last day of Christmas, I’ll continue to enjoy the look and lights of the season. They’ll be no boxing up for a while yet.

May the spirit of Christmas sustain, strengthen and bless us all year long. And may it remind us to treat our brothers and sisters near and far, like the family they are.

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For more on Epiphany, see this post from January 6, 2021

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